Friday, June 17, 2016

God's Grace Is Sufficient

We made it through a few milestones since we last posted an update.  We left Kunming behind and with it our super sweet guide and driver.  They were awesome and so helpful while we were there.  At the same time, this journey feels like it has 4 parts.  Long travel to get here (done), provincial paperwork and gathering as much information about Charlotte's home town as we can (done), and then the US Consulate side of things in Guangzhou, and then the LONG trip home.  So, to have 2 of the 4 things complete, we were ready to climb aboard our 2 hour flight from Kunming to Guangzhou.

As God has continually done time after time (after time), He provided a path and a way from Kunming to here.  There were thunderstorms on the ground in both places, as well as high clouds and turbulence along the way.  Despite Maran's great progress in the area of flying, it wasn't a great day to fly.  Plus, we had no idea how Charlotte would react to her first time in a jet.  However, God graciously answered our prayers (sometimes desperate pleas), as we were allowed to take off from Kunming despite the weather, and we were the 2nd to last flight allowed in to Guangzhou before the airport was shut down for weather.  A few families told us this morning that they circled for more than an hour over the airport waiting on the storm to pass.  Thank the Lord for our timely and safe arrival.  Also, Charlotte was, as she has proven to be this whole trip, a trooper.  She was a little restless, but eventually fell asleep and only awoke when she smelled other folks eating their box lunches/snacks.  She and Margaret will get along famously in their love for snacks/samples/foods of all types!

Once here, we were struck by how much more modern and orderly Guangzhou feels.  Perhaps that is the influence of being a former British colony, or maybe being a more modern city as compared to Kunming, but we are glad to be here and one step closer to coming home.

Charlotte had her physical examination this morning, and passed with flying colors.  However, she was not a fan of having a tongue depressor stuck in her mouth, or being prodded by a strange doctor.  In other words, she is a normal kid!

Our suite here at the Garden Hotel is lovely, and we are enjoying the room to spread out and rest.  Today is more paperwork for me (Wade), and a nap and rest for Charlotte and Maran.  Charlotte and Maran continue to be thick as thieves, and I get more attention now when food or candy is involved.  But all in all, now that we are beginning to meet other families and hear of their stories/experiences- -we feel blessed and lucky with how agreeable and sweet Charlotte is.  As long as we don't push meal time to far, and we get her in the crib at the right times- she will put up with just about anything else we have to do.  Such a great blessing and answer to prayer.

Tomorrow (Sunday for us) will be some sight seeing and maybe some shopping.  I hope to watch a little US Open coverage tonight if the internet connection holds.

Have a great weekend.
Love,
Wade and Maran

Thursday, June 16, 2016

Shopping and Cultural History Tour

Today, is Day 6 in Kunming, and it is the last full day we have here in Charlotte's home town.  We started the day early again, with both of us waking up during the middle of the night.  Maran must have drawn the short straw, as she stayed awake for 2 hours, while I was able to fall back asleep for a while longer.  Last night was the first night that Charlotte didn't fall asleep in her pack-n-play immediately when we put her down.  She cried out (for Maran) several times and eventually fell asleep on her shoulder.  That could be because she had a good, but later than her normal nap yesterday afternoon, or that could because she is starting to warm up to us and test to see if we will comfort her when she is sad.  At any rate, once she fell asleep- she stayed that way until we all woke up around 7AM.  We also got to Skype successfully with Margaret, which was an answer to prayer.  Both kids are doing well, but we miss them terribly.

As for today- we experienced Jade shopping in a huge jewelry market.  Quite the experience.  Followed by a tour of a silk manufacturer and then another sales experience.  As a lot of things, shopping looks different here than in the States.  Here, they take the time to explain to you how the product came into being before asking if you want to purchase the item.  And, the more you show uncertainty about needing or wanting the item, the more they become eager to bundle or package other items and give you discounts!  Throw in confusion over the conversion of USD to Yuan and you have an interesting proposition.  But thanks to our guide and my frugality, we navigated it all well.  Charlotte is taking all of these various outings in stride- -happily riding in a stroller or in our lap as we weave in and out of the cars, scooters, and buses.  She has been so agreeable.

After a morning of shopping, we went to the outskirts of the city to tour what I can best describe as a cross between a national park and Epcot.  It was a place devoted to learning about the various minority groups/subsets of people groups in China.  The Yunnan province has the largest percentage of non-Hahn (sp) peoples.  Each opening in this vast garden-like setting at the foot of the West mountain (shrouded in mist and clouds), had a life-size replica of the typical housing, temple, and meeting place that each people group would have lived in.  It was an interesting tour, and it was very nice to stroll along amongst the trees, lakes, and gardens without the hustle and bustle of the city.

The rest of today will be playing with Charlotte in the room, a dinner at a nice American-friendly restaurant across the street, and then we'll head to bed for the last time in Kunming.  Tomorrow we'll eat breakfast, pack our bags, and head to the airport for a short (2 hour) flight to Guangzhou.  There, we will be with lots of other families who are dealing with all of the same types of feelings and emotions, as well as the paperwork I anticipate being in English at the US Consulate office, which will be a nice change for us.

Please pray for good weather, safe travel, and for Charlotte not to get motion sick (or ears hurting) on her first plane ride.

Have a good day- -talk to you again on Saturday (likely).

Wade and Maran

Here are Maran and Charlotte in front of the entrance to the Minority Village.  That was the actual name of the park, I'm not being disparaging.


View from the park facing the West mountain, overlooking a lake.  Very lovely.


This is a replica of a Buddhist temple that is in one of the far-off places of Yunnan Province.


Another picture of the beauty of the country side outside a bustling city of 8 million people.  The temperature was much lower today, which was very refreshing.


Final shot of us as we head out of the park, the beautiful West mountain still in the distance.


Wednesday, June 15, 2016

Orphanage Tour and Tea Tasting

Hello everybody from Kunming, Yunnan, China.  Day 5, starting to feel like Day 20!

Today was a hard but good and necessary day.  We woke up at our new normal time, around 6:30AM and were dressed, fed, and ready to meet our driver and guide at 8:30AM for the ride to Charlotte's orphanage.  As close as she was to her nannies, we knew that Charlotte would be sad.  And we were right.  But what was amazing and truly yet another sign of God's love and Providence for our little one -- Charlotte's relationship wasn't a one-way street.  These nannies loved her so much.  They remembered her, doted on her, and showed us numerous pictures on their phones of her at various stages in her life at the orphanage.  It is one thing to have a job as a child care worker at an orphanage, and to make sure that the children are fed, clean, have fresh diapers, etc., and quite another to save pictures and videos of a child on their personal phone for going on 1+ years.  The orphanage was very clean, and consisted of quite a large campus- -even having a small hospital on the premises.  We think that not all orphanages are as updated and nice as this one, and again are thankful for how well Charlotte was taken care of before she was placed in our family.  At each mini-reunion with another group of nannies, there would be tears and sobbing by most of us, and then we'd move on to the next part of the campus where Charlotte spent her days.  Finally we arrived back at the van to leave, and there were more pictures, hugs, kisses and crying.  But to Charlotte's great credit, she cried for about 10 minutes and then settled back in with Maran.  She is a brave little girl. It is important for her to grieve this portion of her life that is now over, but we are told and firmly believe that it was a necessary step in helping see that being with us at a hotel far away from her orphanage is not some cruel field trip or experimental summer camp-- but instead this is forever.

After we left the orphanage, we moved on to more of a sight-seeing activity, and received a very interesting tutorial and history lesson on the tea that is grown in this region of China.  And because Maran was helping keep Charlotte entertained, I became a tea brewing master.  I can give you all of the reasons for its health benefits and can brew a cup that will dazzle your pallet, while simultaneously regulating your cholesterol and digestive system.  Who knew?  Now we know!

We are already seeing a few signs of Charlotte coming more and more out of her shell.  We just had an American style lunch, and she is clearly communicating what she wants and needs.  She still isn't sure if I am a permanent part of this equation, but seems pretty well sold on Maran.  That in itself is an answer to prayer, as I am sure she will warm up to her talented government-paper-work filler-outter, deceased movie heartthrob look-alike, who is becoming pretty attached to his sweet, new fanny pack (really, it is quite versatile and useful).

Just a few pictures today, and a prayer request.  Yesterday Maran started to feel homesick, and today it is my turn.  The emotions involved with what we are doing, the unfamiliar surroundings, the distance from home, our kids, etc. are sinking in.  Please pray that we both would continue to feel God's presence in new and affirming ways, and that we would get the 2nd (and 3rd, 4th, etc.) winds that we need to shine the love of Jesus to those we meet and to bond Charlotte to us well.  Thank you for all of your diligence in prayer for us to date- -we so appreciate it.

Until tomorrow afternoon,
Wade and Maran

Us outside the director's/admin building with the kind worker who does the Chinese side of all the paperwork so that children can be adopted.

Hanging on the walls are pictures of the children, and here is our little Charlotte when she was probably closer to 1 years old.

Here is an outdoor playground, one of Charlotte's favorite places to be (per her nannies).  She will love our playset and backyard at home with Margaret and Sarah Catherine.

 One of the many nannies who loved and adored Charlotte- this one we think was from her most recent play room.
 These are the infant nannies who as I mentioned above, still had videos and photos of Charlotte on their phones.  They were SO excited to see her and hold her again.
 A group shot of the nannies and hospital workers that cared for Charlotte.


Tea time in China!  We already feel healthier inside, with increased liver function!


Tuesday, June 14, 2016

Paperwork, Patrick Swayze, and Firsts

Our first night with Charlotte was a dream.  She prefers to be held right now and would cuddle up close, taking everything in.  I gave her a bottle and she fell right to sleep and slept through the night, with no issues.  This morning at breakfast, she seemed to enjoy trying new foods, and really liked French toast and bites of my omelet.

Today we completed all of the paperwork in China, and the Chinese government officially recognizes us as Charlotte's parents.  As many of you know, Wade has a gift for being organized with paperwork, and all of the ladies at City Hall (which is actually government officials meeting in an apartment), would say, "Your husband is so handsome and so smart with paperwork.  He reminds me of that actor in the movie Ghost."  So, Wade has been admired for his Patrick Swayze looks and his penchant for filling out government forms.  If only they could see his dancing and pottery skills.

While we completed the paperwork, Charlotte played happily on my lap with the elephant toy which Margaret picked out and came out of her shell a little bit.  She also said her first word for us, which was, "Mama."  It was a beautiful sound!

After we got the forms done and her passport applied for, our guide suggested we drive to the place where Charlotte was found as an infant.  What was supposed to take 30 minutes took a couple of hours.  Our guide and driver knew the general area (like knowing where Norcross is in relation to Atlanta), but didn't know how to get to the actual park.  They stopped a few times to ask and nobody seemed to know how to get there.  Finally they found a man on a scooter, who guided us, all the while stopping pointing to a place and then starting over again.  It was definitely an adventure.  I so appreciated our guide persevering in finding the place because I think Charlotte will want to see and know that part of her history.  She was left on a sidewalk right across from a school and police office, and our belief is that the parents knew that she would be taken to safety in the midst of such a crowded place.  I pray that God would supernaturally let them know that she is loved and cared for, as I'm sure they had no other option.  Many families here don't have the resources to care for a sick baby, and they know that the government can hopefully get them the care they need.  I can't imagine having to make such a heart wrenching decision.  While we were in our marathon car ride, Charlotte cuddled up and took a nap.  I'll post some pictures of her in front of the place where she was rescued at the bottom of this post.

When we returned to the hotel, I played with Charlotte, while Wade went to get lunch, and she laughed for the first time with me.  She lifted up her toes and I played "This Little Piggy", and she giggled and held out her toes again.  She seems to have moments where she is able to open up and smile or play, but there are also times when she seems overwhelmed and will cuddle up or sleep.  We are grateful that we have the freedom and time to let her needs dictate what we do.

The rest of the day will be spent around the hotel, walking around a nearby park, and venturing out for dinner.  Tomorrow we will visit her orphanage and meet her nannies.  Evidently, it will be hard day for the nannies, as she was a favorite with them.

Have a wonderful day! Love to all,
Maran and Wade




 Bonus shot of the first smile we caught on camera.  Or should I say the first one that MaMa caught on camera while Dada was out of the room.






Monday, June 13, 2016

Charlotte Day!!!!!

It is with such delight, gratitude, and humility that we present the newest member of our family, Charlotte Evelyn Grace!








What a long day it was waiting for our time to go and get Charlotte.  We were tired from travel and went to sleep Sunday night around 8:30PM.  Maran awoke around 2AM, and I fared a little better- waking up around 5:00AM. A mix of jet lag/time change and anticipation was behind all of the sleeplessness.  Finally 2:30PM came and we met our driver and guide, and then we held our breath as we dodged scooters, cars and pedestrians to get to the apartment across town where our meeting with the Civil Affairs and one of Charlotte's nannies was to take place.  Two other families were there receiving their children, but Charlotte was delayed in traffic (although her orphanage was closest), so we got to see how the sometimes chaotic/emotional hand-off would go from the other groups.  However, as God has continued to do, and I have to think as a result of all our our faithful friends who have been praying so fervently- -when Charlotte arrived, she immediately went to Maran and never let go. In fact, back at the hotel now as I type this- she is peacefully sleeping in Maran's arms on the bed.  We think that she is a very introspective and thoughtful little girl, taking all of the activity in, not yet showing a lot of emotion or crying.  We found out today that all of the nannies at the orphanage loved her, and one in particular cried today when she left. They had bought her two special outfits for today's meeting- she definitely seemed to have been well-loved and even cherished by her caregivers.  We also saw that the elephant that Margaret picked out for her in the care package we sent several months ago was with her, and seems to be one of her favorite toys!  

We were somewhat anxious as we waited for her to arrive, but it really could not have gone better.  Praise the Lord for His continued provision for us!  Charlotte is with her forever family now, and we feel so blessed and grateful to have her.  Please pray for continued bonding and attachment with us both- -I haven't held her yet, but have wiped a few small tears from her eyes and kissed her a few times on the head.  She also came to us with the picture book we sent a few months ago, and we think that her nannies did a good job of preparing her. for today  But, we give all of that praise and credit to the Lord.  The rest of this evening will be feeding her a bottle and some rice cereal tonight at dinner, putting her to bed (and us too soon after).  Tomorrow morning is the 2nd round of paperwork, and then we will figure out what she is up for.  Thanks again for all of your prayers and well wishes!

So grateful for what He has done,
Wade and Maran

Saturday, June 11, 2016

Overwhelming Gratitude

I (Maran) feel like I have been using the word overwhelmed a lot lately, and I'm sorry for the repetition, but it's the best way I know how to express to all of you this experience.  It already feels like years ago when Wade and I were on our way to the airport, but I'm sitting here in Kunming, the day before we pick up Charlotte.

I'm truly overwhelmed by the wonderful texts and prayers throughout all flights.  Many of you know that flying isn't my favorite, but God answered the prayers, and even exceeded our expectations.  On the flight from Atlanta to Los Angeles, one of the flight attendants asked us why we were going to China.  We explained our trip and as we got off the plane, she handed us a bag of extra snacks for our journey.  It wasn't just pretzels or peanuts either, but biscotti, and the food that you normally have to buy on the plane.  It was one of those ways that God shows His kindness through others.

When we arrived in Kunming, our guide was there to meet us and the first thing she told us was that she had gone to Charlotte's orphanage a couple of days ago and had another picture to share with us.  I wish I could share it with you below, but our technological capability is low and she wasn't sure how to text it to me.  The adoption coordinator at the orphanage bought Charlotte a special dress for the occasion of meeting us on Gotcha Day.  Our guide continued to repeat how loved Charlotte was by the nannies and the adoption coordinator, and that her personality was sweet and kind.  Our guide's name is Susan,  and there was an instant connection. 

Our plan is to find food, rest, and reconnect with Susan tomorrow at 10.  She has some things to show us before our 2:30 appointment of picking up Charlotte.  We're so happy to be here and will look forward to sharing more with you after Gotcha Day.

Love,
Wade and Maran

Friday, June 10, 2016

At the Airport!!! It's GO TIME

Well, the time has finally come.  All the preparations have been made.  The hay is in the barn.  If you don't have it or know it now, you aren't going to know it.  Those are all the cliches I can think of. 

Thank you all for the prayers, texts, and well wishes over the last few days.  Thank you also to all of those that have committed to faithfully pray for us as we go.  We can't believe it is finally here.  Thank you also to our parents, the Evans, and Gettmanns for caring for our children while we are away. We hope that they want to come home at the end of all this.

Here is the verse that we are holding on to as we get ready to board for the first of 3 flights, and almost 30 hours of travel.

Isaiah 41:9
"I took you from the ends of the earth, from its farthest corners I called you.  I said, 'You are my servant'; I have chosen you and have not rejected you."

He has chosen us for Charlotte, and Charlotte for us!  What an amazing God we serve!

Have a great weekend, we will hopefully (internet and VPN connections willing) update you when we land on Sunday in China.

Love,
Wade and Maran